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  • The Tongue And Its Power

    The Tongue And Its Power

    "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." - Proverbs 18:21
    “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21

    Prov 6:16-19
    16 There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him:
    17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood,
    18 a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil,
    19 a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.

    The Tongue’s Actions Determine God’s Feeling About Us

    One of the things I appreciate about my mother is that she had deep convictions about lying.  I would not get in too much trouble if I was honest about the what I did and the parties I went to.  If I lied though, mom would “lose it,” stiffen the penalties, and the punishment would often become double or more.  This is because lying to someone who loved me so much was very hurtful to them, and offensive to her, and she understandably took it very personally.  This disposition around lying stuck with me. Therefore, it has helped me understand God and personally connect to scriptures like this one.

    Most importantly, God emotionally and intensely reacts to me if I use my tongue to lie.  If I stir up people against each other or cause problems with my words God hates it.  The Hebrew word “sane’” here does really mean “to hate (personally).”  The Hebrew word translated as “detestable” here is “tow`ebah,” and means “a disgusting thing, an abomination.”  God takes how I speak very personally. It’s because his love is so deep that he cares this much about what comes out of our mouths.  Love always “rejoices with the truth” (1 Corinthians 13:6) and “God is love” (1 John 4:8), therefore this intense reaction from God makes sense.

    Prov 6:23-24
    23 For these commands are a lamp, this teaching is a light, and the corrections of discipline are the way to life, keeping you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of the wayward wife.

    The Tongue’s Powers Must Be Protected Against

    The best defense we have against someone using their tongue to seduce or entice us to sin are the commands of God.   Besides, if we spend time filling ourselves up with God’s word, when (not “if”, but when) we are enticed by a “smooth tongue,” we’ll be prepared.  A “smooth tongue” is contrasted here with the commands of God.  The “smooth tongue” being darkness and “leading down to the chambers of death” (Proverbs 7:27).  The commands of God being “a lamp,” a “light,” and “the way to life.”  Who am I going to listen to?  Sometimes my own “self-talk” from my heart and thoughts is dark and would lead me to death, persuaded to sin, and disbelief.  How can “take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ?” (2 Corinthians 10:5)

    Consequently, the biblical way to keep myself pure and to guard my steps like this is to memorize the scriptures and having them “hidden…in my heart.” :

    Ps 119:9-11
    9 How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word.
    10 I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands.
    11 I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.

    Prov 10:19-20
    19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.
    20 The tongue of the righteous is choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little value.

    The Tongue Can Be Used Too Much

    Clearly, we see all of us can choose to use our tongue to lie, to entice, and to seduce.  Furthermore, we can use our tongue simply too much – by talking more than is necessary. The scriptures teach us “when words are many” there is some kind of sin we are covering for.  Rationalizing, excuse-making, and deceiving all take more words to make work than the truth.  The scriptures caution us “A gossip betrays a confidence, so avoid a man who talks too much.” (Proverbs 20:19)  I need to make sure that I am not that man who uses words to manipulate and defend himself.  I can often over-explain which comes from insecurity, which can come from a lack of faith, or a self-focus, or a troubled conscience.  Finally, it’s important for me, and all of us, to identify whatever is causing us to use “many words” when this comes up.

    The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. (Proverbs 15:28)
    The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil. (Proverbs 15:28)

    Similarly, this “economy of words” is something the ancient Spartans famously demonstrated in their culture.  “Lakonia” is the name of the ancient region of Greece in the southeastern part of the Peloponnese peninsula.  This region’s capital was (and still is) the city of Sparta. The word “laconic,” has come to mean both from this region and to thoughtfully use the least amount of words possible.  Such was the practice of the ancient Spartans. Another thing I find is that the truth takes much fewer words and makes for a lighter heart and clearer head. Most importantly, it also brings me into fellowship and closeness with those around me and gets me in touch with grace – both given and received. (1 John 1:5-10)

    Prov 17:28
    28 Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.

    The Tongue Speaks What The Heart Is Full Of

    What will I use my tongue for today?  How will it affect God’s view of me? How will it affect those around me?  What does it indicate about my own heart? Jesus said, “for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” (Luke 6:45)  What will I fill my heart with today and what impact will it have?  What will it bring forth from my heart – wisdom or perversity, a piercing sword or healing?  Consequently, will it help me endure forever…or only last a moment?

    Prov 10:31
    31 The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, but a perverse tongue will be cut out.
    Prov 12:18-19
    18 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
    Prov 11:12,19
    12 A man who lacks judgment derides his neighbor, but a man of understanding holds his tongue.
    19 Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.

    Dare I speak the truth from my heart, good or bad? Even more, will I get in touch with where I actually am in my relationships – with God and with others?  Or will I decide to “gush folly” and avoid the issues? There is no hope in a deceitful tongue. Additionally, there is no healing in a deceitful tongue, only crushing my spirit – and others!

    Prov 15:2
    2 The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.
    Prov 15:4
    4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.
    Prov 17:20
    20 A man of perverse heart does not prosper; he whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.

    The Tongue That Deceives

    A deceitful tongue is the result of a perverse heart.  When I’ve made the conscious decision to lie, it was always to get ahead.  Often, I wanted something for nothing and acted selfishly.

    As a result, when I was a teenager I stole some chips capriciously from the storefront display at the corner convenience store.  I lied when I got caught, saying that I thought the friend with me had paid for the chips when he went to the counter. I recall another moment when lied to my jazz guitar teacher, saying I was so broke I could not afford gas that week and could I pay him later.  He shrewdly exposed me and I’ll never forget the look on his face when he realized I was trying to take him for 20$. That was the price deceit and selfishness put on that friendship. Please forgive me, Eric. Certainly, even if I would have made a fortune, it would never be worth it!  “A fortune made by a lying tongue is a fleeting vapor and a deadly snare.” (Proverbs 21:6)

    Prov 26:28
    28 A lying tongue hates those it hurts, and a flattering mouth works ruin.
    Prov 16:1
    To man belong the plans of the heart, but from the Lord comes the reply of the tongue.
    Prov 17:4
    A wicked man listens to evil lips; a liar pays attention to a malicious tongue

    The Tongue That Replies Well

    Furthermore, God can guide me to reply well.  I can pray to him for help, for guidance, for an apt and wise reply.  I can listen to his word, his “lips,” and avoid my own self-deception.  Sometimes the most malicious tongue is my own, tearing me down in my head, and it is wicked to listen to that inner voice of self-doubt in my heart!  This is a choice I make! I must instead decide to listen to the Lips of God, the Word of God, and put its truth in my head and heart! “I reach out for your commands, which I love, that I may meditate on your decrees.” (Psalm 119:48)  “Oh, how I love your law! I meditate on it all day long.” (Psalm 119:97)  What will I meditate on?  Whose lips shall I listen to?

    My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. (Prov 2:1-5)
    My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. (Prov 2:1-5)

    Prov 25:15
    15 Through patience a ruler can be persuaded, and a gentle tongue can break a bone.
    Prov 25:23
    23 As a north wind brings rain, so a sly tongue brings angry looks.
    Prov 28:23
    3 He who rebukes a man will in the end gain more favor than he who has a flattering tongue.
    Prov 31:26
    26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

    The Tongue Can Heal, Endure, And Wisely Instruct

    The tongue can be used for many things.  It has all manner of incredible power in our lives and the lives of those around us.  The tongue can be deceitful, persuasive, sly, flattering, smoothly seductive, and in its gentleness, even break bones!  Incidentally, according to the bible, it is not sticks and stones that break bones – it is the words spoken by a gentle tongue!  The tongue can commend knowledge and bring healing! It can help one endure forever and bring forth faithful instruction and very the wisdom of God!

    The scriptures are true –
    “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Proverbs 18:21)

    Finally, may all of us love the tongue, and “[speak] the truth in love,” so “we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” (Ephesians 4:15) To God be the Gory!

    Jeremy Ciaramella
    Evangelist,
    Phoenix International Christian Church

  • The Fear of The LORD vs. The Fear of Correction

    The Fear of The LORD vs. The Fear of Correction

    The Fear of The LORD is the beginning of knowledge; but fools despise wisdom and discipline - Proverbs 1:7
    The Fear of The LORD is the beginning of knowledge; but fools despise wisdom and discipline – Proverbs 1:7

    “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; but fools despise wisdom and discipline.” – Proverbs 1:7

    If I don’t have the fear of the LORD, I will not understand anything about knowing God, I won’t even know where to start.  If I don’t have the fear of the LORD, I will despise wisdom. What does that mean, “wisdom?”  How does one get “wisdom?”
    • Proverbs 1:2, the proverbs help us have wisdom.  Do I want to read them?
    • Prov 2:6, the LORD gives wisdom.  Do I want to ask him?  James 1:5-8
    • Prov 3:13, wisdom is something you actually have to look for, you have to want to look for it.
    • Prov 4:5, wisdom is begotten by obeying God’s word.  Do I want to obey God’s word?
    • Prov 10:13, the lips of the discerning have wisdom.  Do I want to listen?  Do I want discipling?  Do I delight when someone helps me be with my own lacking in wisdom?
         If you think you are a whiz at everything, then you are taking the “wis” out of wisdom. – Jeremy Ciaramella
         Prov 11:2, When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
    Being humble is what will bring wisdom.  That’s a sign I have “The Fear the LORD!”
         Do I hate admitting I am wrong?  Do I resent it when someone points out a fault, a mistake, or a sin?  Do I willingly and eagerly confess my sins?  Do I ask people advice about how I am doing things?  Do I seek their advice or do I gush my solution, my perspective, my experiences, my successes, and my opinions?  Do I avoid or dislike apologizing?  Is it hard for me to apologize?  Do I have to wrap their fault into the apology?  “I’m sorry I did that, but if you have not first done what you’d done, I would have never done that to you…”  All of these things are pride.  All of these things are disgraceful.  All of these things show I despise wisdom, because I am not loving humility.  Humility is Christ’s most powerful attribute, it is what led him to the cross for our sake – Phil 2:5-8.  If I don’t have humility, it’s because I don’t have the fear of the LORD.  I’ll not start learning, gaining knowledge, until I have humility.
         Prov 13:10 “Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is found in those to take advice.”
    How can I know I’m pursuing humility?
         Do I seek advice?  Do I get advice intending to actually follow it?  I appreciate disciples who take notes and such when they are getting advice/discipling.  It shows they actually want to recall what they are learning and apply it.  Do I do that?  If I don’t take advice, it’s a sign that I am quarrelsome and prideful.  Am I more eager to give advice to my leaders than to take their advice?  Do I undermine their role because I’m so bent on implying and applying my opinion?  Do I put people on eggshells because I often remind them of the shortcomings in them that I see?  Do I talk more than I listen?  Talking too much, talking loudly, talking over people, interrupting people…all of these things cause quarreling, because they are prideful actions.  These actions demonstrate a lack of wisdom and thus a lack of “The Fear of the LORD.”
         Prov 14:8 “The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways, but the folly of fools is deception.”
    • Do I understand that a lack of vulnerability is the same as deception?  “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken.” – CS Lewis, “The Four Loves”
    • This is because mistrust the same as being unloving.  We fear the error of man more than we seek the divine nature of God’s love.
    • If I don’t have “The Fear of the LORD,” I will despise discipline.  I’ll resent correction.  I’ll fear admonishment, rebuke, and correction.  I’ll resent those that deliver it, and rationalize avoiding them and opening up to them.  I’ll not accept rebuke and instead will seek to dismantle it and merely endure it instead of be changed from it.
    Wisdom pours her heart out to those who accept her rebuke. (Prov 1:23-25)
    • When I spurn a rebuke, I prove that I am scheming, wayward, and prepped for destruction…(Prov 1:29-33)
    • Do I hate it when someone who corrects me or do I love it/them?  If I’ve stopped trusting them, then I’ve stopped loving them, and that is hateful. (1 Cor 13:4-8, “love always trusts.“) Prov 9:8.
    • Do I have a biblical understanding of the value and power of someone showing “sharp disapproval or criticism” because of my “behavior or actions?” (Definition of rebuke = “Express sharp disapproval or criticism  of (someone) because of their actions or behavior.“)
    • Do I understand the impact of listening to a rebuke?
      • It makes me a wise son, Prov 13:1
      • It makes me at home among the wise, Prov 15:31
      • It should impress me if I am a man of discernment, Prov 17:10
      • It will cause me to gain knowledge if I am discerning, Prov 19:25
      • It will give me spiritual wealth (golden earring), Prov 25:12
      • It shows me that someone openly loves me, Prov 27:5
    • Older men you are not to rebuke harshly!  You are still rebuke to them, just not harshly!  Exhort them as fathers! 1 Tim 5:1
    • We are to both rebuke AND encourage!  And do both with GREAT patience and CAREFUL instruction.  Am I CAREFUL in my rebuke AND in my encouragement?  2 Tim 4:2
    • Titus 1:10-14 this kind of heart must be rebuked SHARPLY.  A SHARP “sharp disapproval or criticism” is for these people because they are (a) rebellious & deceiving others in Titus 1:10, (b) ruining whole households with their teaching(s), and (c) they are liars, brutes, and lazy gluttons.  The solution to people acting like this is a SHARP rebuke – with goal being that they would be sound in the faith and not pay any attention to false doctrines and myths.  We cannot be “sound in the faith” if we do no have “The Fear of The LORD!”
    • A rebuke from the evangelist, the church overseer, is done with all authority!  The same guideline is given for encouragement.  Titus 2:15.  No one in the church is allowed to despise the church leader.  In principle then, no one should despise their house church leader or their bible talk leader.  No one in the group God assigned gave you to lead is permitted to despise you according to this scripture.  And it’s up to you to make sure that is the case!  It is our goal that all our dear brothers and sisters would have “The Fear of The LORD!”

    Jesus made a whip out of chords..
    Jesus made a whip out of chords..

    Jesus rebuked those he loved and disciplined.  (cf. Rev 3:19).  Am I being like Jesus and rebuking those that I love? (cf. Proverbs 27:5)  Am I striving for the FEAR of the LORD and helping those around me to do the same?  Or is there a fear (or hatred) of correction? (cf. Proverbs 12:1)

    Jeremy Ciaramella
    Jeremy Ciaramella